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November 2009 
Self love again...
Posted on Mar 17th, 2009
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PJ
PJ
Why do I insist so much about self love recently. Because I feel more and more that It is a key point in the life of almost all human beings. Why do some persons succeed and others fail. Why do some are rich and other poor? Why some happy and other unhappy?...
The answer is "self love"...Self love does not mean egoism, it means Self Identity and Self Identity means to be exactly what we are supposed to be at every moment of our life. It is our Self pilot acting from inside. Every "Self" is unique, every person is original, so all people on this planet have a particular "mission". But to accomplish this mission as it should supposes we have full Self Love.
All the people I see In my workshops and seminars, all those who come to private sessions with me have the same problem : self love. I used to have the same problem it is why I am now teaching others how they can come out of this limitation.
In fact, as humans, we are not supposed to be limited, we are not supposed to fail, we are not supposed to stay married with somebody we do not love, we are not supposed to do a job we do not like, live in a place we do not like, eat things we do not like, ...
But why do so many people do it?...
Why?
Because they have no confidence, because they are afraid of failure, because they think they have no dreams, because they think they are not intelligent enough or not talented enough to live by themselves and succeed...
They think they will always have to depend on parents, husband, company, or something else to continue to survive on this planet. Don't you know such people around you?
Why do they think so? From where did this idea come?
Think a little bit and tell me what is your answer.
I will continue next time on this topic.
The answer is "self love"...Self love does not mean egoism, it means Self Identity and Self Identity means to be exactly what we are supposed to be at every moment of our life. It is our Self pilot acting from inside. Every "Self" is unique, every person is original, so all people on this planet have a particular "mission". But to accomplish this mission as it should supposes we have full Self Love.
All the people I see In my workshops and seminars, all those who come to private sessions with me have the same problem : self love. I used to have the same problem it is why I am now teaching others how they can come out of this limitation.
In fact, as humans, we are not supposed to be limited, we are not supposed to fail, we are not supposed to stay married with somebody we do not love, we are not supposed to do a job we do not like, live in a place we do not like, eat things we do not like, ...
But why do so many people do it?...
Why?
Because they have no confidence, because they are afraid of failure, because they think they have no dreams, because they think they are not intelligent enough or not talented enough to live by themselves and succeed...
They think they will always have to depend on parents, husband, company, or something else to continue to survive on this planet. Don't you know such people around you?
Why do they think so? From where did this idea come?
Think a little bit and tell me what is your answer.
I will continue next time on this topic.
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Well, here are some ideas I have on this -
We have fallen into the conditioning trap, the conditioning by society and others, thinking that we are validated (our lives are validated) by what others think, and by what others want us to be or do. They do not realize that life, the very breath that we breathe, is in itself validation for who we are - and nothing else. So, yes - it is lack of confidence! We have been so caught up in societies and groups that want us to be this way or that way, that may or may not serve well our own self. So, they fear comes in that we won’t be accepted, appreciated or loved. See, this is expecting it to come from somewhere outside ourself and to me that is never the case. My appreciation of myself, my love for myself, and my acceptance of myself is what I am most interested in. And doing the best that I know to do gives me more confidence to keep doing that. Some of this is learned behavior that we fall prey to and in the process of healing ourselves (becoming whole - or at least our perception of becoming whole) we must break way, free ourselves from this erroneous thinking. Why some attain this and some do not, I cannot speak of this, since I know not the specifics of any other self (unless it is shared with me, and then may not even then). Some spend more hours toiling over what they think others are expecting of them, and have little time to do what they are informed to do. By informed, I mean that which informs them internally. Some call this the higher self and some call it God, or consciousness, but to me it is the same thing. Call it whatever you like. I’m informed (in-form) - for the most part, or at least I’m happy with thinking that I am. Do I fall short of my own internal knowning? YES, from time to time I do. I guess that makes me human. But I do not nagate the possibilities of better, fuller, more of LIFE in me and others.
Well, these are just a few rambling thoughts. Perhaps some are even a little accurate!
Thanks for this post Patrice.
John
Thank You PJ for sharing your insight so eloquently. As I was reading it came to mind that all of my experiences are stepping stones to get to this point, self love and appreciation. (To receive the gift of my life)
Love & Blessings to you Dear Friend,
Jeannie
Thanks Jeannie for choosing to hug us on the trail,
Every one on ours
but still choosing to connect
so good to feel,
so ecstatic to have us meeting in this freedom…
Thanks John for sharing.
Let me just tease you a bit about your last phrase…
rambling thoughts? and maybe “perhaps”…some…even…little…accurate…
Gosh!
Who said so?
(smiling with love…)